Session Description

"You are the most responsible person I've ever met...almost to the point of needing medication."

I laughed it off until a decade later, standing on a cruise ship with no luggage, no control, and no backup plan. Turns out, pressure doesn't create us. Pressure reveals us. And mine revealed a woman whose identity was built on holding everything together.

Letting go was hard. But so was carrying the weight of control everywhere I went.

In this deeply relatable and thought-provoking session, Shaina challenges the idea that resilience means endlessly enduring. She uses the Diamond Paradigm to illustrate how high-achieving HR pros often carry invisible pressure while appearing polished and professional on the outside. Through honest storytelling, humor, research, and practical reflection, attendees will learn how to recognize hidden pressures shaping their lives, reframe the beliefs keeping them stuck, and redefine what strength, success, and sustainability truly look like.

Learning Objectives

At the conclusion of this session, participants will be able to:

• Understand performative resilience and how it shows up for you today.
• Identify three factors that determine your experience through hard situations.
• Recognize which stage of the Diamond Paradigm you are in and the breakthrough needed to improve resilience.

About the Speaker

Shaina Lane is a professional speaker, author, leadership expert, and ice cream addict. Before starting her own business in 2019, she built a career in healthcare and successfully transitioned to HR 15 years later. She has a master's degree in education and more coaching credentials than should be legal. When she's not developing leaders, she's taking comedy classes, training for triathlons, or coming up with increasingly creative excuses to avoid yard work.